Why is it that the moment a couple announces they are expecting they are immediately taken off the party list. I'm not talking about those keg stand kind of parties either. Jeff and I are sort of past that point in our lives anyway and wouldn't be interested in a party like that these days.

We have a mixed group of friends. We have those who are still down to party no matter what night of the week it is, and those who have children and are tired and in bed by 10:00p.m. Jeff and I used to be able to jump from group to group without a problem. We were that couple who would love to hang out and drink a couple beers, or spend the evening on the floor with our friend's two year old and play puzzles or read a book to them.

When we have hosted a party, we invited everyone. We didn't discriminate no matter what their family status. If it was going to be a party with alcohol there, we would let our friends with little ones know that there would be adults drinking and they would decide if they wanted to bring their kids or not.

We have heard rumblings from other friends that have attended get togethers that we would normally have been invited to, and didn't get an invite. Like an annual BBQ cook off. Jeff participated in it a year or two ago and we had a blast. It wasn't a party centered around booze it was just a fun time bbq'ing and trying different types of cooking. And, if people do decide to drink, it's not like I'll be jonesing for a beer, forget that I'm pregnant and won't be able to control myself. If that's the case, I should probably check myself into AA.

It just feels like some of our friends think we're not worth being friends with anymore because we're going to be parents. This is such an exciting time for us. We're adding a whole other person to our family. Instead of friends being supportive and happy, we just don't hear from them anymore.

Now, if you're the handful of friends who have still been calling us and hanging out with us, please don't think I'm complaining about you. We love all of our friends and I think that's why it hurts when we hear about parties or dinners and we don't get a phone call.